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Monday, October 17, 2011

4HB, Part 2 - Refocusing after failure

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I haven't spoken about my latest diet, the slow carb diet, for quite awhile. (You can read the last update here.) And I have to be honest... it's because so far it hasn't been going as well as I wanted it to.

Over the past 5 weeks, I've only dropped 5 pounds. And although that puts me at 25 pounds lost total in the past 3 months (which is something I've never dreamed possible or sustainable), I've found myself extremely frustrated with my recent lack of success.

So, I put to work the brain power of my world - my husband - and had him read The Four Hour Body to see what I was missing. What was I doing wrong? It took C a total of 15 minutes to read through the diet guidelines before he started laughing at me. Apparently, I was doing everything all wrong.

The big focus of the slow carb diet is protein. I immediately started focusing on meat. Meat, meat, meat. I've been on some vegetarian-variation for so long, that once I found myself not only able but encouraged to increase my protein, I immediately ran away with meat. It was glorious. Fajitas, burgers, and brisket flew through our weekly meals at a rate that would probably put Ron Swanson's diet to shame.

But, as C was quick to point out after reading the book's guidelines, I should be focusing instead on legumes. Beans, beans, beans. Not meat, meat, meat. So I re-grouped, and focused on eating beans on Wednesday. I lost 3 pounds from Wednesday to Saturday by this simple switch of focus. And now, after my free-day Saturday, I'm more ready than ever to tackle this last 25 pounds that I've set as my goal to lose.

How wonderful it is to have a support system built into my life. Someone to come along side me, and help me re-focus. Help me clarify my plans. And to help me realize that my failure is not in fact a failure, but a misunderstanding that's easily correctible.

Before I jumped back in, I wanted to give you a glimpse into my failures. I fell into a state of contentment, which was quickly followed by a state of frustration. How easy frustration sets in!! And how easy I find myself willing to give up on something that I've dedicated an inordinate amount of time to.

How true this revelation of mine applies to so many aspects of my life! A support system is so important to accomplishing even the smallest of goals. I encourage you, in whatever you're current goals are, to make sure you have a support system. Even if it's just one person. It's so important to have someone to share frustrations and short comings with. Someone who won't judge you, but who will walk along side you holding your hand!

I was reminded that failure is always an option. It's always around the next corned if you allow yourself to fall into its trap. Everyone fails. And I know now more than ever that failure is OK. Sometimes it's just the kick in the butt you need to go ahead even stronger.

My weight loss goals are so much more than looking better or being healthier. Its a way of learning how to depend on others. How to stay honest. How to stay vulnerable. And I thank you for reading about my failures and success and being encouraging on both ends.

To stay even more focused, I wanted to make a list of small-term goals for this week...

  • Eat beans. Every meal.
  • Work out. I didn't do any exercising last week. This week, my goal is exercise 5 days.*
  • Drink water. I want to keep up my 8 glasses a day. It makes me feel better.
  • Avoid the peanut butter. It's seriously like crack, and isn't the type of protein I should be focusing on.

So here's to a great week! I hope to be able to come back and report great news to you next week. I'm feeling great, and I'm motivate like never before.

What goals are you pursuing? How are you tracking both your success and failures? I'd love to get some tips!

{Happy Monday!}

*I've been following Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred DVD & highly recommend it!

PS - If you like to follow my entire weight loss journey, go here.


  1. I struggle every day with my weight loss/gain. Especially with the stress of a wedding fast approaching I'm always so focuses of gaining weight. It stinks. I think the stress hinders my loss a lot. I started taking cardio kickboxing classes to change things up. Its really been helping boost my metabolism. You should be proud of your 5 pounds!!! Any loss is good, actually GREAT!!!

  2. Hey girl! I'm doing the 30 day shred too! And the recipes are delicious! You should check out my blog... Starting today a friend sand I are doing "motivate me Monday". It's all about fitness and motivating each other!

  3. Good job! Yes, it is amazing to have someone you can have help lift you up and refocus you without making you feel bad!! Awesome!
    I started couch to 5k program today! yay :)

  4. good luck amy! we all have set backs but it is your perseverance that keeps you motivated and going back to tackle that 25 lbs after a minor setback, you can do it!

  5. Good luck, Amy! I'm so proud of you so far! I know you'll lose that last 25 before you know it. Sometimes some tweeking is all we need!

  6. That Jillian Michaels sure knows how to kick my booty. I love her DVD and I hate it. It's confusing...

  7. It really sounds like you've gotten yourself back on track. Good job! I know how hard it is to stick to your program and not get derailed. I lost 90 lbs a few years ago, and it was SO hard. Just take it day by day, setting small interval goals for yourself (i.e. 10 lbs at a time). You can do it!

  8. I love reading about your progress. Congrats on getting yourself back on track. The weight loss journey is so tough, but your committment inspires me! 25lbs is such an attainable goal and one that I know you can make in the next weeks/months. Keep it up girl!

  9. Great job so far!!!
    I try to drink a lot of water throughout the day. More than just normal. When I feel "hungry" which basically means, I'm not hungry but rather in need of some sweets, I just gulp down a glass of water and it works on me. ;) I also try to eat small portions, rather than the whole plate...and eating slow apparently is the best thing ever. I'm still learning. ;)
    And yes, girl, stay away from peanut butter...it's your worst enemy!! :)