This past weekend, Christian's best friend came to visit. And the guys joked all weekend about what I'd write about after it was over. And, even though I was told them "I won't write anything!" it was only inevitable that when I sat down to write this week's Marriage Series post, all I could think about was the weekend & the lessons learned.
Now, for you to understand my lesson learned, I must first confess something about myself: I am a jealous, control freak. Which isn't too bad, until you add that to my demanding personality and tendency to over-dramatize everything. (Because, really, what fun is marriage if things aren't over-dramatized?)
Every time we have people over to our house for an extended stay, it's absolutely necessary for me to go in with a game plan. I stress easily when I'm playing "host" -- even to the dearest & closest of friends -- and I've discovered these high-stress situations aren't exactly ideal for the open-communication, loving relationship I strive to have with Christian.
My game plan this weekend was to sit back, relax & don't make any decisions. I went into the weekend telling myself it was a guy's weekend & I was the third-wheel and wouldn't try to control anything. And surprisingly, it worked.
I had a lot of fun, wasn't stressed out at all, and got a very sweet compliment from my guy at the end of it all. Plus he had fun - which was really what mattered anyway. Finally, a win!
It's the little victories that make the work totally worth it!
What victory have you had lately?