I was going to blog about staying home with C this weekend. Drinking beer and watching football and how excited I was about hanging out. Being friends. But then all I could think about was being friends with my husband, which led me down a rabbit hole....
I love that my husband is my best friend. I love that I can be completely comfortable and myself with him. We've been doing that since we were 16. Which all sounds good on paper. The question I can't keep getting out of my head is how to avoid the "friend zone" in marriage.
Because while I love our friend time, I adore our intimate times. Those times that are only between us. And I'm talking about so much more than just sex. Pillow talk. Taking care of each other when we're sick. Truly giving yourself up for the other on every front.
I'm really curious how couples of years and years together (especially when kids are added) make sure to keep the "friend zone" out of marriage. Especially if they started off, as so many of us do, as friends with their partner.
My grandparents at their weddings. ♥
I can go into how I, with 3 years of marriage experience under my belt, keep it intimate. But as I look ahead, into that infinite abyss of marriage possibilities, I understand that what I know now is nothing compared to what I'll eventually come to learn.
My cousin Whitney said something to me this past weekend that I can't get out of my head. She & her husband are coming up on 8 years of marriage. They have four kids, he works his M-F/8-5, she directs the household,
And that's the mentality I want to have 5 years from now. I want to still be fighting and working for something worth fighting for. Something that goes so far beyond watching football on a Saturday, or having somebody to go to concerts with. A friend, companion and lover. That's not too hard to ask for, I think ♥